Comments on: My Doorman Hates Me http://www.kylehepp.com/2009/02/my-doorman-hates-me/ Latin America Destination Wedding Photographer and Blogger Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:22:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Fned http://www.kylehepp.com/2009/02/my-doorman-hates-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2809 Fned Tue, 24 Feb 2009 22:44:00 +0000 http://www.kylehepp.com/my-doorman-hates-me/#comment-2809 Ok, sorry to say this, but why tha heck to do you have to apologize????? <br/><br/>First of all: YOU PAY A RENT meaning you've got the right to have fun in your own home. Also meaning, YOU PAY THAT GUY'S SALARY. <br/><br/>Second of all: are you like the ONLY one that breaks rules in the entire building? Don't you mean to tell me people don't play loud music into the wee hours of the morning (ejem, remember the parrilla party and blasting music right under your window while we were there?). Do you see ANYBODY ELSE apologizing to Don José? <br/><br/>Third of all: If Papi didn't pee nor poop in the pool or grass, and she didn't bark at anybody and she didn't bite anyone... then what tha heck is he pissed off about? Because you DELIBERATELY went against the rules?? IS HE KIDDING YOU??? If Chile is anything like Mexico than how could he expect you NOT to break that dumb rule when you're having a party, on your BIRTHDAY, WITH ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND IN YOUR OWN HOME BUILDING???!!<br/><br/>I say fuck it. Let him sulk if he wants to and you can even wink at him in the morning when you pass by his desk. <br/><br/>-- Ok, that was the Mexican side of me that just wrote all that, the American, more diplomatic and peacemaking side says this: <br/><br/><br/>You should apologize to Mr José and bake him a nice batch of chocolate cookies. <br/><br/>:D<br/>Fned. Ok, sorry to say this, but why tha heck to do you have to apologize?????

First of all: YOU PAY A RENT meaning you’ve got the right to have fun in your own home. Also meaning, YOU PAY THAT GUY’S SALARY.

Second of all: are you like the ONLY one that breaks rules in the entire building? Don’t you mean to tell me people don’t play loud music into the wee hours of the morning (ejem, remember the parrilla party and blasting music right under your window while we were there?). Do you see ANYBODY ELSE apologizing to Don José?

Third of all: If Papi didn’t pee nor poop in the pool or grass, and she didn’t bark at anybody and she didn’t bite anyone… then what tha heck is he pissed off about? Because you DELIBERATELY went against the rules?? IS HE KIDDING YOU??? If Chile is anything like Mexico than how could he expect you NOT to break that dumb rule when you’re having a party, on your BIRTHDAY, WITH ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND IN YOUR OWN HOME BUILDING???!!

I say fuck it. Let him sulk if he wants to and you can even wink at him in the morning when you pass by his desk.

– Ok, that was the Mexican side of me that just wrote all that, the American, more diplomatic and peacemaking side says this:

You should apologize to Mr José and bake him a nice batch of chocolate cookies.

:D
Fned.

]]> By: Maeskizzle http://www.kylehepp.com/2009/02/my-doorman-hates-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2808 Maeskizzle Tue, 24 Feb 2009 18:38:00 +0000 http://www.kylehepp.com/my-doorman-hates-me/#comment-2808 I agree with Isabel and Amanda that you shouldn't feel guilty. As Amanda says, rules here are optional. They can´t even walk on the right side of the sidewalk, or at least on the left side, like the weird-o Brits. They just go at it haphazardly, however it works, negotiating with other peds upon meeting them (or crashing into them). I think that is a suitable metaphor to how human relations are here. Especially among people you don't know well.<br/><br/>However, if your conscience makes you feel you should apologize, go for it. But have tons of self-respect when doing it and if he doesn't accept your apology, that's his problem. I don't think more is in order than a simple apology. I agree with Isabel and Amanda that you shouldn’t feel guilty. As Amanda says, rules here are optional. They can´t even walk on the right side of the sidewalk, or at least on the left side, like the weird-o Brits. They just go at it haphazardly, however it works, negotiating with other peds upon meeting them (or crashing into them). I think that is a suitable metaphor to how human relations are here. Especially among people you don’t know well.

However, if your conscience makes you feel you should apologize, go for it. But have tons of self-respect when doing it and if he doesn’t accept your apology, that’s his problem. I don’t think more is in order than a simple apology.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.kylehepp.com/2009/02/my-doorman-hates-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2807 Anonymous Tue, 24 Feb 2009 16:09:00 +0000 http://www.kylehepp.com/my-doorman-hates-me/#comment-2807 Kyle; <br/>Where do you get it from??? ;0)<br/>You made me laugh so hard...Can wait to hear how you made peace with Don Jose!<br/><br/>Caroline Kyle;
Where do you get it from??? ;0)
You made me laugh so hard…Can wait to hear how you made peace with Don Jose!

Caroline

]]> By: Lisa B. http://www.kylehepp.com/2009/02/my-doorman-hates-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2806 Lisa B. Tue, 24 Feb 2009 14:51:00 +0000 http://www.kylehepp.com/my-doorman-hates-me/#comment-2806 Definitely get him a little gift or bake him something. Then just give it to him and say you're sorry about how you acted. Definitely get him a little gift or bake him something. Then just give it to him and say you’re sorry about how you acted.

]]> By: Amanda http://www.kylehepp.com/2009/02/my-doorman-hates-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2805 Amanda Tue, 24 Feb 2009 14:15:00 +0000 http://www.kylehepp.com/my-doorman-hates-me/#comment-2805 Kyle, I don't think you should feel that guilty, either... I agree with Isabel. And this is probably going to piss people off... but... aren't rules "optional" in Chile? I don't mean to generalize, but to me it's like a country where people cut in front of you in line, charge you too much for a taxi ride, smoke cigarettes while holding their infants, throw their trash on the ground, don't tip the waitstaff... etc. etc. At least you weren't ripping anyone off! Like hello, remember how our LAST doorman, the guy who was supposed to be enforcing the rules, actually was stealing money and taking advantage of the ninas de aseo? <br/>He's probably just pushing his weight around since you're a cute little girl. It's really not a big deal, but I just wouldn't do it again any time soon. How would a Chilean deal with it? Probably avoid him for a little bit and act like nothing happened... I don't think I've had too many situations where Chileans apologize for doing something wrong... with the exception of my husband, that is, cause I make him. Anyway, I'm not saying "chileans suck" here but it's something cultural and I also think he's making a big deal out of it. You're just too good of a person! Kyle, I don’t think you should feel that guilty, either… I agree with Isabel. And this is probably going to piss people off… but… aren’t rules “optional” in Chile? I don’t mean to generalize, but to me it’s like a country where people cut in front of you in line, charge you too much for a taxi ride, smoke cigarettes while holding their infants, throw their trash on the ground, don’t tip the waitstaff… etc. etc. At least you weren’t ripping anyone off! Like hello, remember how our LAST doorman, the guy who was supposed to be enforcing the rules, actually was stealing money and taking advantage of the ninas de aseo?
He’s probably just pushing his weight around since you’re a cute little girl. It’s really not a big deal, but I just wouldn’t do it again any time soon. How would a Chilean deal with it? Probably avoid him for a little bit and act like nothing happened… I don’t think I’ve had too many situations where Chileans apologize for doing something wrong… with the exception of my husband, that is, cause I make him. Anyway, I’m not saying “chileans suck” here but it’s something cultural and I also think he’s making a big deal out of it. You’re just too good of a person!

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