Kyle Hepp

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   Happy quarter-of-a-century!!!
   Saludos from yo’ gramma

   Comment by Maeskizzle — February 5, 2009 @ 10:55 am

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   I too have been thinking a lot about death lately, but only because a lot of people that I’ve somehow known have died. But I haven’t started making any plans, yet.
   Anyway, I would tell the professor to get an occupation more useful than finding strange coincidences through statistics.
   Oh and Happy Birthday!!! You will soon find that it isn’t the date itself that might kill you, but rather the “accumulation” of dates where it’s been your birthday.

   Comment by Flo — February 5, 2009 @ 12:27 pm

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   Want to go out for a drink sometime Gramma Heather? HA!

   Flo, I loooooove the way you phrase that…”accumulation of dates.” So true!

   Comment by Mamacita Chilena — February 5, 2009 @ 12:29 pm

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   Dude, Kyle. You’re not going to die.

   But this freaked me out a bit for a reason I’m not going to blog about due to common sense, hahahahaha.

   Comment by Amanda — February 5, 2009 @ 1:01 pm

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   P.S. My grandfather died on his birthday. That probably doesn’t make you feel much better. But he also HAD HAD a heart attack some time before and it was in the days before surgery.

   Comment by Amanda — February 5, 2009 @ 1:02 pm

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   Okay, first off, I’d just like to say that I’ve been celebrating my 25th birthday since 2005. Not planning on changing that any time soon.

   Second, I think about, and talk about, death all the time. My husband and I have life insurance policies. We, and our families, and a few friends, know what our wishes are should we bite it prematurely. We talk all the time about how we want the other to continue if one of us kicks it. It’s strangely comforting to me, because talking about it makes me fear it a little less, I think. I know my loved ones will be okay, and they won’t have to worry about what I would’ve wanted, you know?

   Comment by Kristen — February 5, 2009 @ 1:02 pm

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   Now that I think about it, I had lots of mortality (not morality) thoughts when I was your age. At 25, I remember asking my parents, “when did you realize you were mortal?” Because, while, I knew it on a logical level before, I never felt it on a different level (perhaps instinctual) until I was 25.

   I also went through a quarter-century crisis, a mix of anxiety/depression/desire to never die/whathaveyou. I guess it’s sort of common to have a 20-something crisis.

   Comment by Maeskizzle — February 5, 2009 @ 1:59 pm

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   Happy early birthday! I think it’s normal to ahve the feeling of dread before a birthsay because, for women, so much of our identity (culturally and socially) is tied up in being young, vivacious and beautiful.

   Comment by Sara — February 5, 2009 @ 5:58 pm

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   Amanda, I know! I’m just weird like that and think about it a lot. Sorry about your grandpa, that sucks that he died on his birthday.

   Kristen, I think you hit the nail on the head, talking about it makes it seem less scary. And have plans in place feels reassuring.

   Heather, I’ve always thought about these things ever since I was little. It’s not a recent crisis, it’s an ongoing one.

   Sara, that’s not it at all! I actually really like getting older because so far every year has been better than the last and I don’t expect that to change any time soon. I have no beef with getting older, or really dying even. It’s just something I think about a lot and since I saw this study findings and have my birthday coming up I thought the correlation would make for a nice blog post.

   Comment by Mamacita Chilena — February 5, 2009 @ 6:07 pm

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    Ok, your freaked me out when the first thing I see when I look at your blog is death, death, death. But, once I got past the first few lines I took an aspirin and the heart attack subsided!!!

    Feliz cumpleanos in less than 2 weeks! I loved being 25. In fact, I started everyone I was 25 like six months before my birthday. Don’t know why, just did.

    See you soon!

    Comment by Melissa — February 5, 2009 @ 8:16 pm

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    I’ll repeat my mom’s saying:

    “Life begins in your 30′s”

    Of course she said that in her 30′s. It was that life began at 40 when she hit 45. And again 50 at 53. She didn’t have the same advice after 60 though. I think age only started to catch up with her then. She can still out shop both my sister and me.

    Really though, I’m on the higher end of my 30′s now (37 just before you turn 25) and the thought of hitting 40 in a few years is a bit scary. But I love the person I am now and I wouldn’t want my 20′s back – maybe my body when I was 25, but otherwise I think I’m a better person now and I’m definitely more content in my life. (But that was just due to my circumstances… 20′s can be awesome!)

    Comment by Ordinary Girl — February 6, 2009 @ 7:57 am

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    ha ha I have my whole funeral planned out…never admitted that before… But now that I am a decrepit 30 maybe I should start spreading it around so people get my last party right Happy b-day and wish I could be there for it….the birthday…not the funeral.

    Comment by Rachel — February 6, 2009 @ 10:15 am

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    way to be prepared! if only more people thought about these things. i keep telling myself i need to put my desires to have food/water cut off if i am in a coma in writing. maybe this blog post will serve. also, it’s just smart to think about. i always tell my suegra to think about her partner’s death. she’s been with the man 14 years. he was married and with his wife for 2.5 years. he’s STILL married to her. if he drops dead, my suegra is fucked out of everything. i love that you take care of your clients. poor S, he must think you’re nuts. PS- what are you doing for your bday???? i’m going to be in NYC starting Feb 22

    Comment by nyGRINGAinCHILE — February 6, 2009 @ 10:21 am

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    If 25 equals death then 50 must mean dead and decayed! Don’t they say that from the day you are born you start to die? So I think from age 1 to 40 you are dying from the outside in but then from there after you also start to decay from the inside out. Remember . . life doesn’t begin at 40 for those who go like 60 at 20 .. or is it life doesn’t begin at 50 for those who go like 70 at 30?

    Comment by Ritamae — February 6, 2009 @ 4:19 pm

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    ROTFLMAO…Who but a highly organized and determined (young) woman would consider such things? Thanks for the good laugh…it does the heart good…

    Comment by Anonymous — February 6, 2009 @ 5:01 pm

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    I think everyday 10 min about my mortality, death and such. It puts everything in the right perspective.

    Comment by Anonymous — February 8, 2009 @ 9:37 am

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    These words came to mind, from a wise man: To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
    A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
    A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
    A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
    A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
    A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
    A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
    A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
    What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboureth?
    I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it.
    He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
    I know that there is no good in them, but for a man to rejoice, and to do good in his life.
    And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God.
    I know that, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be for ever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and God doeth it, that men should fear before him.
    That which hath been is now; and that which is to be hath already been; and God requireth that which is past.

    Comment by Anonymous — February 9, 2009 @ 8:47 pm

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