Fotografo de Bodas, Santiago

October 5, 2009

This trip has been good in so many ways. We are seeing the world yes, but more importantly, Seba and I have been able to spend a solid two months together with each other’s undivided attention. We’re both more relaxed than we’ve ever been at any stage in our married life.

We’re both workaholics, I’ll admit. In Chile, Seba was working 60-80 hour weeks in construction and I can’t even count the time I worked blogging, simply because I had no set schedule, but I know they were long hours too. Without doing so, we wouldn’t have been able to save for this trip. But the result was that for the first three years of our marriage we didn’t get to hang out a lot. We tried to savor the time we did have together but even the vacations that we took to the U.S. were usually to see my family, so I’d try to squeeze in time to hang out with everybody at once. We’ve definitely never lived through anything like this, except in the very first couple months of our dating, when Seba was “finishing his thesis,” and by that, I mean, hanging out with me 24 hours a day.

But, like I said, we’ve had the past two months of pretty much interrupted us time. And as I blurted out to Seba the other day in the elevator coming back to our hotel room, I’ve never been so in love with him as I am now. He’s always a great man to be married to, but lately he’s been outdoing himself. On the airplane or train, he always gives me the window seat without asking even though I know he likes to look out too. When the stewardess comes down the aisle with her cart he’ll start getting out a few coins because he knows I want a hot chocolate. He doesn’t make fun of me when I won’t touch the coins (I’m a germaphobe with a particular aversion to touching money). Some days I’ll wake up and he will have downloaded all the pictures off my camera onto the computer, formatted my memory cards, charged my batteries and then repacked it all away in my camera bag, all of which is a huge pain in the ass to do. I occasionally have major minor breakdowns during days that we’re on the road, aka in hot smelly trains all day, and I’m tired and hungry. But he never loses his patience with me, the way I probably would if someone were having a temper tantrum after she bit into a sandwich which she thought was chicken and was actually tuna, then threw it on the floor of the train station and started crying hysterically. *Ahem, I swear, I didn’t actually do that.

It’s not only the little things that he’s been doing though, because I know it’s easier to be in love when we’re both relaxed and not working. It’s also that we’ve had a lot of time to talk about everything, all the things in life that we want, the path we’re on, where we want to be ten, twenty, thirty years down the road. I was never unsure of my decision to marry Seba, at all. But I’ve never felt more convinced that we are on the same page.

There’s nobody else in the world I’d rather be traveling with. In fact, there’s nobody else in the world I’d rather be with no matter what we’re doing.

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Awww, such a lovely post!

I can identify with some of these – Rich sorts all my stuff, charges batteries and packs my camera bag before every shoot, he knows that I always want the window seat, and when we travelled around Europe (well, Amsterdam, Paris and Rome) together, we only argued once (about the difference between marble and granite, iirc)

Thank you for this post, in talking about your love for Seba, it's reminded me how much I love MY husband too!

Comment by elizaclaire — October 5, 2009 @ 1:35 am

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Oh my god that was just precious. And it might inspire me to get married. Some day….

Comment by Hulie — October 5, 2009 @ 6:07 am

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Haha, Eliza then your trip was ,uch ,ore bilssful than ours! We have definitely had a few spats here and there, but hey, keeps things interesting

Comment by kyleracine — October 5, 2009 @ 8:17 am

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inspire you to get married? or throw up?

Comment by kyleracine — October 5, 2009 @ 8:18 am

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Love love love! Having seen you guys struggle through insane schedules, I am so happy for you both that you get this time to just enjoy each other. Can't wait to see the well-rested and relaxed version of Kyle and Seba SOON!

Comment by emilyinchile — October 5, 2009 @ 8:41 am

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Awww! I agree with elizaclaire — reading this made me think about how sweet my husband is, too. I can be amazingly grumpy at times, but he never loses his patience with me. And his smile still makes my stomach flutter, even after eight years together. (Four of 'em married.) Thank god for patient men! Sounds like we got some good ones.

Comment by Lesley — October 5, 2009 @ 9:05 am

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You two are such a great couple, since I met you, you've been one of those marriages that I keep in my head when I think about my own future and I am so so happy that you are having an opportunity now to relax together. Much love to you both! And yay for Seba dealing with your meltdowns…being prone to meltdowns myself, particularly with low blood sugar, I know that that is in fact a true sign of man

Comment by Emita — October 5, 2009 @ 9:20 am

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I love all your entries, but I REALLY love this entry.

yay for good men!!!

Comment by Haley — October 5, 2009 @ 12:46 pm

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Awww…so sweet Some similarities of things I love about my husband too. I can throw tantrums about the dumbest things and he is patient- is this a Chilean male thing?

Comment by cincinnatichile — October 5, 2009 @ 1:45 pm

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You know it's true love when you can put up with each other's less than perfect sides! lol. I love the way you describe your marriage and how much you love each other. So romantic!

Comment by gringagonesouth — October 6, 2009 @ 6:28 am

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I have the same coin thing. That's sooooo OCD, haha. I got over it when I was 16 and worked as a cashier and had no choice but to touch them.

Comment by amanda — October 6, 2009 @ 11:41 am

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You know it's true love when you can put up with each other's less than perfect sides! lol. I love the way you describe your marriage and how much you love each other. So romantic!

Comment by gringagonesouth — October 6, 2009 @ 1:28 pm

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I have the same coin thing. That's sooooo OCD, haha. I got over it when I was 16 and worked as a cashier and had no choice but to touch them.

Comment by amanda — October 6, 2009 @ 6:41 pm

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